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Despite very clear guidelines coming directly from highly respected and world-renowned health organizations and also the ACOG... Stating that a "well woman exam" or pelvic exam and/or pap smear is not necessary to safely and effectively use most forms of birth control many providers still hold broth control hostage until a patient "consents" to these exams. 

This practice is outdated, useless, and disgusting. 

There is no medical reason you need a pelvic exam or a pap smear to use birth control. 

Here at We Deserve Better we believe this practice is coercion and sexual assault. 

Under no other circumstances would withholding a necessity until a person consents to vaginal penetration be considered anything else. 

Women and AFAB people deserve to be able to have safe sex without being forced into a medically unnecessary ritual, we deserve to have access to life-changing and even life-saving medication, because yes, for many people with a variety of reproductive health conditions birth control absolutely is life-changing and life-saving, without being violated. 

Even if you are comfortable receiving a pelvic exam or pap smear or would have them anyways even if you didn't want to use birth control the choice to have them should be yours, it shouldn't be a requirement.

The fact that it often is a blatant violation of informed consent and patient rights and should not be stood for.

Online services like the ones listed above have made it easy to access birth control free from coercion, many of the services take insurance, are low cost,  are simple to use, and ship your birth control directly and discreetly to your door. This is a great step up from the dystopian nightmare that was accessing birth control before these services existed. As little as a decade ago accessing birth control without having someone try to force a pelvic exam and pap smear on you could be extremely difficult, sometimes even impossible depending on where you lived, your income, and what resources you had access to. 

Thankfully thanks for services like these we no longer have to tolerate that abuse to access birth control and have safer sex. 

If you are on or interested in a method that requires an in-person visit to a clinic such as the shot, or the Nexplanon implant and want to avoid an unnecessary exam Planned Parenthood is usually a good place to start. 

But no matter where you go it's a good idea to call ahead and directly ask the clinic what their policies are to avoid being blindsided by them attempting to force an exam on you.

A telehealth service offering gender affirming care. They have a wide range of products to fit everyone's needs including HRT in oral medication, patch, gel, and injection form. 

Plume does not accept insurance, they charge a flat fee of $99. Your medication and up to 5 visits per month with your provider are included in this as well as a membership to their online support community.

Visit Plume Clinic here 

A telehealth service offering everything from primary care to gender affirming care where 81% of providers working with the company identify as LGBTQ+. 

If a provider who understands your experience on a personal level is what you're looking for Flox might be the service for you. 

They take most major health insurance companies. 

Learn more here.

Just like women are AFAB people are forced into medically unnecessary pelvic exams and pap smears when seeking birth control, transgender people are often forced into them as well when trying to access hormone replacement therapy or HRT. 

Particularly those transitioning from female to male because the only discrimination allowed in gyencogly is misogyny, they don't care weather or not you're cisgender or transgender, if you're trying to access birth control or HRT, if you have a vagina and/or a cervix or uterus they will find an excuse to hold your medication hostage.

Nobody should have to face coercion ever, especially not when trying to access lifesaving healthcare.

You have options to access safe, effective, coercion free gender affirming care. 

Don't tolerate anything less.